Friday, January 14, 2011


Am I too old to make new friends?

My flatmates (and supposed new-city-new-life-new-friends) are not bad people. But they irritate me to the point of wishing I'd never met them.

I thought it was just because of THEM: the non-stop shit telly (every single underclass soap and reality show; no news, ever. Not even ITV. Not even the frigging weather), the inability to stack a dishwasher, the lack of understanding of the importance of ventilation, the Capital FM...

Then I though of my (few, remaining) real life friends. And most of them'd be just as bad. How did we ever become friends? A goodly proportion of them were flatmates as well at one time or another, so it's not just the house-sharing thing.

Is it just too late? Am I too intolerant, and set in my ways? Is *everybody* either married, babied or mental?

Am I stuck with what I've got?



  • don't see why. With the exception of V who I've known since the mid 80s nearly all my friends are new. Most date back to moving back up here so no more than 3 years old. Some I met via the blog. Some I met on the coaching course or at ballet class. One I got chatting to at a book reading, another at a speed dating event. One I actually met on OKCupid by looking at the similar to me feature.

    flat sharing would probably be a fast way to undying hatred for me.

    By Blogger GreatSheElephant, at 9:43 PM  

  • Cheers GSE, that's pretty heartening.

    I've just been on a local forum looking at book groups and (don't laugh) a girls' football team.

    It's just really hard to get to the Going For Coffee stage.

    Although the couple of times I've had that opportunity in the past few years I've not really responded... I am hopeless.

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 9:52 PM  

  • i've made some fine friends through my blog. and found a husband. stick a contact email in the sidebar and cross your fingers.

    By Blogger Rosie, at 11:56 PM  

  • There is a HUGE difference between being friends and actually living with people. With friends, you can have a good time going out or hanging out, doing things that are mutually enjoyable. And it doesn't matter a whole lot what their habits are re kitchen/ventilation.

    I can be friendly with a huge number of people as long as I don't have to spend more than a few days at a time with them sharing common housing. I don't actually want to live with anyone at all. Though circumstances of the last several years has not allowed me the luxury of living alone, I am greatly looking forward to it in the - hopefully - not too distant future.

    By Blogger Rebecca, at 12:11 AM  

  • What's wrong with mental?

    By Blogger Tim Footman, at 12:34 AM  

  • They (not sure who) say we don't often make new friends once we hit thirty. I guess kids, spouses and all that do make it less likely that people will open up their lives to new people. I met a lot of nice people through the university. They read news, they talk about what's going on in the world, they even discuss Hiedegger, but the communal kitchen is still a mess.

    I agree that living with others is not the path to good friendship.

    By Blogger Timorous Beastie, at 12:23 PM  

  • I made all my besties post-30. This in spite of being intolerant, set in my ways, and mental.

    By Blogger One Fine Weasel, at 1:44 AM  

  • Thanks all - I'm off to make some new friends! Well, maybe not right this minute..

    Rosie, I'm afraid that this blog has (in the past anyhow) veered too far into the confessional arena for there to be too much in the way of Real Life/Blogworld overlap. Too embarrassing.

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 8:13 AM  

  • good god no, 30 is definitely not too old to make new friends. I didn't move to london until I was 32, and i knew two people here - my brother and my ex.

    It's been hard work at times, but i finally (after 3 years) have a decent social circle, of friends, and of people that i'm friendly with.

    join groups (mine were knitting and rollerderby), go to book clubs, take up any invitation that comes your way.

    good luck.

    By Anonymous C, at 8:34 PM  

  • Thank you

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