Sunday, December 03, 2006

(Another) Melancholy Sunday Night Post

It’s bad, isn’t it?

This blog, I mean. It isn’t doing what it should.

How can I have a single-woman blog that doesn’t involve dating, flirting, sex, or even any hope of such ever happening ever again.?

What’s a blogger to do? I reckon there are two chioces. Either I revert to old-school blogging. This would mean that every couple of days I’d tell you what I’ve been doing – exciting, eh?

Or else I could go down the introspective route. You know, stick my head even further up my arse, indulge in some horrifically indulgent self-analysis, and debate and discuss at length why I am like the way I am. This would involve talking about my mother.

Old-School Blogging it is then.

On Saturday afternoon I went here, and on Saturday night I went here. They were both dead good, in quite different ways.


I had lots of pints on Friday night, but you probably all did that too.

Christ. What else. I nearly finished The Old Devils by Kingsley Amis on the Tube. It's not that good. Must've been an awfully thin year for the Booker. Oh god, oh god, oh god...

Maybe the time has come to try...internet dating?



  • Apparently internet dating's not all that bad. My cousin met her bloke that way, and it's all fine and dandy apart from the fact that she lives in London and he lives on a windswept island in Oslo Sound. Oh, and my other cousin met his girlfriend that way too, and it's all fine and dandy apart from the fact that he lives in Scotland and she lives in Helsinki.

    I was going to do a post about long-distance internet relationships, but I was too miserable.

    I don't mind which way you go with the blogging, incidentally - I'll still be reading.

    By Blogger patroclus, at 8:57 PM  

  • *would*

    Oh, am I too late for that post.

    By Blogger Wyndham, at 9:03 PM  

  • I live with two people who met on t'internet. They were miserable as sin before that. It's just that you can weed out a lot of virtual frogs using the interweb and can tell a lot about people from what they write. (That's why I'd mentally paired you off with Gary.)

    By Blogger Murph, at 9:21 PM  

  • Aw, Sunday night nice-supportive/sarky-commenting.

    I feel better already.

    Mind you, it could be the effects of the Victory Gin I've just imbibed.

    Tim's fault

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 9:40 PM  

  • AND, I've just managed to do a link in a comment - woo!

    (Took me like eight goes, mind)

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 9:41 PM  

  • Nice work!

    By Blogger patroclus, at 10:09 PM  

  • 1. don't diss old-school blogger. (said an old-school blogger.)

    2. ugh, i hate dog tracks.

    3. i think internet dating is good. i met Hairy Man that way, and he was wonderful. eHarmony blows dead donkey dicks - it will only pair you with people who live 1000 miles away, if any. but Dating Direct is good because instead of the service matching you with who THEY think you should date, you just get to look through their database and pick out likely-looking people. give it a go.

    4. nice work indeed! how did you do it?

    By Blogger Chaucer's Bitch, at 11:40 PM  

  • If you stick your head up your arse, your chances of getting someone unsuitable via internet dating are greatly increased. On account of your restricted view of the keyboard.

    That VG, it's vigorous stuff, ain't it?

    By Blogger Tim Footman, at 1:29 AM  

  • what's the big deal about internet dating? think of it this way: at least you'll have something to write about in the blonk.

    or you could try that gary fellow. Quite like how he writes, although not so sure about the compatibility thing. What's the film with kate winslet and jim carrey?

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:40 AM  

  • "What's the film with kate winslet and jim carrey?..." I haven't actually seen the movie, but that's what I'm reminded of....

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:42 AM  

  • Dating Direct has just let me look at half-a-dozen profiles before demanding I sign in.


    They all like 'going out and quiet nights in' and start off by saying; 'I would describe myself as the sort of person who..'


    Anyhow, that film is Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind but I haven't seen it because I don't have a boyfriend to go the the flicks with.

    The last good film I saw was The Squid and the Whale. I went with my Dad.

    And as far as Gary is concerned - well Leeds isn't terribly handy, is it?

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 10:40 AM  

  • Cousins 1 and 2 both recommend OK Cupid.

    It terrified me, though, during the five minutes I was registered on it before deleting my profile in panic.

    By Blogger patroclus, at 10:51 AM  

  • I don't know about the UK because I've never been there, but Sunday evenings here in the States have always been dull and lonely what with everything being closed by 5 or 6:PM.
    The on-line dating may work for you, my thinking on it has always been that for every lonely woman on them there are twenty lonely men. But half of them could be fuckwits easily.
    And as for introspective blogging, I'm a shameless naval gazer so I don't judge it harshly at all.

    By Blogger Nigel Patel, at 11:40 AM  

  • so that's how internet dating get so popular.

    interesting insight

    By Blogger treespotter, at 2:17 PM  

  • "And as far as Gary is concerned..."

    He'd bore the arse off you Spin, by the looks of it....

    By Blogger Robert A. Swipe, at 2:19 PM  

  • spin you've gone to the dogs.

    By Blogger realdoc, at 2:33 PM  

  • this is probably obvious, but what else is your blog for? I mean, if you had a man, would you be blogging (hmmm...)? So actually 'more of the same' is actually what we should expect.

    well, I'm just speculating.

    maybe what you need is your own slurker.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 3:26 PM  

  • Well, to be honest, when I started this blog I assumed that I'd have a few disastrous flings and maybe the odd 3-monther to report on.

    So there'd be lots of is-he-going-to-call? moments, meeting his friends, realising I don't like him that much, or more likely, him realising he's not that impressed with me, before it all ends horrily and inevitably in misery or relief.

    I actually went to the dogs metaphorically speaking a long time ago.

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 3:57 PM  

  • I'll join the throng here in saying that I've heard pretty good things about internet dating. Haven't tried it myself, but I've met some very good friends online, so why should finding a partner be any different?

    Don't try to define your blog. Just relax and write whatever you please!

    By Anonymous Two Sirius, at 4:44 PM  

  • After much prevaricating, I went on my very first ever 'Internet' date last night - and it was good. He wasn't weird, freakish and we had a nice time - the pre-date nervous vomiting was for nought. Give it a go, if for no other reason that if you don't like them, they are bound to have mates!

    By Blogger Cleavers, at 5:17 PM  

  • sorry to pick up on a tiny detail, but you say "I haven't seen it because I don't have a boyfriend to go the the flicks with". I guess this might be tongue in cheek, because you seem to go to gigs alone, but what's wrong with doing fun things by yourself? lots of people seem to have this problem and I can't understand it. I don't talk to people in the middle of a film, and I certainly hope you don't - so why not go yourself? I often don't even ask friends if they want to go because there are some films I'd rather see by myself. (and yes, spotless mind was one of them).

    similarly eating out - lots of people can't do it alone. And going to galleries and just about anything else. When did people become so dependent?

    sorry. rant over.

    By Anonymous riddledwiththepox, at 8:02 PM  

  • clarification - that last line isn't really directed at you. your blog shows you to be very independent and I admire that. the cinema thing obviously touched a nerve here.

    By Anonymous riddledwiththepox, at 8:04 PM  

  • Definitely give the internet dating a try. A girl in my office is doing it after a tragic history and whilst she hasn't met 'the one' yet she's having a lot of fun and getting her confidence back which has to be a good thing.

    Rent the Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind it's good. As good as the Squid and the Whale but in a different way.

    I'd quite like you to stick your head up your arse and start talking about your mother. Don't talk to me about mothers. Or rather, do.

    By Anonymous Tedward's Missing Ear, at 10:05 PM  

  • I met my boyfriend through an internet dating site - I'd had a bit of a dry spell and felt it was time for a more pro-active approach to dating. Met two frogs, one prince but they didn't like me so I ended up with my boyf. We've been together a couple of years... The only reason he used the internet is he worked long house doctor hours - me? I am just a bit crap at dating...

    By Blogger Kissing just for practice, at 10:08 PM  

  • Forgot to say I hated 'the Old Devils' too. Very misogynistic but then my book group people say that's my catch phrase so what do I know.

    Re KJFP's comment. Oooh get her she got a Dr on the internet. Surely that would please your mother

    By Anonymous Tedward's Missing Ear, at 10:27 PM  

  • OMG my mother would die of happiness if I picked up a doctor, wherever I found him.

    That OK Cupid is considerably better - the men on it actually sounded a if they had personalities. Still, I brole out in a cold sweat at the thought of having my own details on there.

    And yeah, I am perfectly capable of going to the cinema on my own, although it's something i've never done. Strange, given that I've travelled round the world, gone to gigs, eaten out etc all by myself.

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 8:24 AM  

  • from what I've seen (yeah, of course there are always exceptions), doctors aren't ideal partners/spouses cos they work so damn much. They're never around (that may be a bonus for some...but it does mean you'll still be seeing movies on your own).

    So I've never understood why mothers should be so happy for their daughters to marry a doctor. Well, it is obvious (financial stability) but it just seems so blatantly instrumental.

    I think we're mostly all agreed you should post an ad on the internet...

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:28 AM  

  • I pretty much always go to the cinema on my own.

    As for Internet dating - that's how I met the banker. Otherwise (umm, not sure about that - maybe delete otherwise)... It has been a long (7 years) stream of embarrassment, humiliation, rejection and disappointment. However, you are a lot younger than me so it might be more rewarding for you.

    By Blogger GreatSheElephant, at 10:53 AM  

  • I've been out with enough guys who lounge around all day in their boxer shorts, and never do anything as exciting as going to the cinema, to be happy with what I've got. It is the person rather than the profession that I love.

    But my point was that he is a bright, funny, driven guy, with a bit about him, as opposed to some sad 35 year old virgin, who lives with his mother and plays extreme tiddlywinks all weekend, which is the stereotype I was expecting. He makes me happy and you could find somebody who ticks all your boxes...

    Erm... Veiny... Sinewy... Scruffy... musical taste...

    (FYI My own mother's response was "At least this one will be clean." Judging from previous boyfriends, it was a fair comment).

    By Blogger Kissing just for practice, at 10:54 AM  

  • In my (not all that limited) experience of internet dating, approximately 50% of the blokes on there have REALLY bad teeth. Something to look out for. Pick someone who has a smiley photo up.
    Anyway, I met two of my exes online, not really on dedicated dating sites but still.
    I think a lot of people worry about the stigma - it's not really a romantic story to tell your kids: I saw your dad's picture on "Ok Cupid" and thought, ah, he lives in my town and doesn't look like a psycho! And the rest is history...
    But then drunken random pulling which seems to be the most popular way of meeting men in the UK isn't terribly romantic either.
    (Word verification: luxex. Fabric woven with REAL gold)

    By Blogger Loganoc, at 11:05 AM  

  • God, I'm really fussy about teeth...

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 11:37 AM  

  • I like going to the cinema on my own, especially during a weekday afternoon when the cinema is completely empty and you sometimes get the whole place to yourself. Coz I hate other people.

    By Blogger LC, at 5:07 PM  

  • Weekday afternoon lc? Does P know about this? The boss is away, the staff all piss off home early?

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 5:20 PM  

  • Single Woman Blog?
    INternet Dating?

    Been done...

    ...plough your own furrow Spin

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