Wednesday, December 13, 2006

Another list. Marvellous.

Having suggested in the last post that (some) women (possibly) ‘girlie up’ their tastes, I’m about to contradict myself. Because the comments got me thinking about how most people, at the start of a relationship at least, feign interest in all sorts of things to impress their new shagpiece.

Things I have tried to show at least some interest in over the years:


Gym going
Their various ‘artistic’ endeavours
Dance music
Tough Guy
What used to be called ‘video’ or ‘computer’ games
David Gray

Again, not a lot, really.


  • By "metal", do you mean that he was into Iron Maiden or iron-nickel alloys?

    And again with "Rugby" - the sport or the town in Warwickshire?

    By Blogger Salvadore Vincent, at 12:25 PM  

  • "shagpiece." excellent. *files in brain for future use*

    Video games aren't video games any more? what are they now? I'm behind the times. (I still play PacMan.)

    I've never feigned an interest in something because I find everything genuinely interesting. I like meeting people with hobbies and interests different from my own because I see it as an opportunity to learn about things I might not have been exposed to before. Like cricket, por examplo.

    By Blogger Chaucer's Bitch, at 12:45 PM  

  • I once feigned interest in the work of Aleister Crowley - utter bollocks - taught to me by somebody not very bright, who made up the key concepts and was usually very stoned. BUT really handsome, a fantastic shag and spoke passionately with bright eyes and a great smile...

    Oh, and I also tried to learn french... For a French guy...

    By Anonymous easily led, at 1:02 PM  

  • CB - yeah, that's what you think at the time. It's only later that you feel like a total fool for trying to turn yourself into a goth for him. Or something.

    By Blogger Loganoc, at 1:06 PM  

  • Or, on the flip side play down genuine interests because it'll scare off chap in question, due to the huge chip on his shoulder/feelings of inadequacy that his date knows more about the wine than he does...

    By Blogger Hannah, at 1:12 PM  

  • I've done more of the playing down - I too find most things genuinely interesting (at first anyway) so I can happily sit and listen to random stuff for ages. I have unconciously down-played my intelligence occasionally though when I've realised I'm doing it I get out as soon as possible.

    By Blogger belladona, at 1:35 PM  

  • My last one was into quilting (over forty) and Country music.
    I hadn't a leg to stand on on either.
    But I think one of the things she was really attracted to in me was how engaged (busy) I was. We met volunteering for Planned Parenthood and I was also doing yoga, tai chi, lifting weights and attending a Twelve Step program three or four times a week.
    If I wasn't so damn broke, I'd be out doing more stuff right now, because it seems to be a charmer.

    By Blogger Nigel Patel, at 1:35 PM  

  • Hey Spinny - you're Insignificant, and so am I!


    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:51 PM  

  • I was mates with the current and only Mr Violet for a couple of years before anything smoochy happened so we'd already ripped the piss out of each others' weirder interests (e.g. him: painting wee models for war games; me: those shampoos that claim to keep dyed red hair red for longer LIESLIESLIES) and any feigning would have been spotted. I have, however, played down my interest in objectifying James Dean Bradfield, on a cunning survivial-of-relationship strategy.

    I thought about feigning an interest for a guy once, I was in HMV buying a birthay present for someone and though 'ooh, present for me too' - it was down to a choice between either Elastica's first album because I liked it or Mansun's second because he did. I got Elastica and it made me realise I wasn't that arsed about him so I rang him and cancelled what would have been our second date and haven't seen or spoken to him since. ... Am I shallow???

    By Blogger violetforthemoment, at 1:52 PM  

  • I'm with bella: I tend to find the other person's interests genuinely interesting - if they weren't, I don't think I'd be bothering with the person in the first place.

    Plus you learn lots of random things that often come in useful later.

    I don't think I could ever even *feign* interest in rugby, though. Brrr.

    By Blogger patroclus, at 2:39 PM  

  • I am utterly, utterly ashamed about the rugby thing.

    I only watched one match ever though.

    I am starting to realise that I have never gone out with anyone remotely interesting.

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 2:56 PM  

  • At least the Ecstasy and Cocaine would have dulled the pain of listening to David Grey or staff room gossip.

    By Blogger Murph, at 3:22 PM  

  • I too have feigned interest in rugby, but that was for my dad. After 40 years I find I am quite interested in it now, but not if there is an alternative.

    By Blogger realdoc, at 4:30 PM  

  • Football's a different matter, mind you. Sometimes I don't even have to feign interest in that, but that's more because my mum is a big football fan.

    Easily Led: Aleister Crowley once owned the same flat that I once owned in Slough. He probably sold it when he discovered that it's haunted by nothing more sinister than the ghost of a sock. I sold it for different reasons.

    By Blogger patroclus, at 4:58 PM  

  • I have no idea who David Grey is, but I have a deep disliking for the singer David Gray and would totally sympathise if you didn't like him.

    Sorry, I can't help myself. This kind of behaviour is exactly why I have no friends.

    By Blogger Wyndham, at 5:32 PM  

  • I'm constantly surprised that girls feel the need to feign interest in their boyfriends' stuff - do you think we care whether you like video games, sports or even the same music as us? Hell no - as long as you're fun to be with and good in the sack, everything else is negotiable.

    By Blogger LC, at 6:05 PM  

  • Was this all the same person

    By Blogger Billy, at 6:14 PM  

  • It's not really feigning interest exactly.

    It's more like when you first meet someone and you really like them and you want to like what they like, so you give it a go...

    Trying to find common ground, I suppose.

    I quite like football every now and again (especially when En-ger-land lose, obviously) but only when ther are loads of goals. Which can never be guaranteed.

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 6:16 PM  

  • Ooooh, James Dean Bradfield. Fwoar. Sorry, that wasn't really on topic.

    I think I once sort of feigned interest in living in a two-bedroom flat in Wimbledon FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE just in order to remain in the pants of a barrel-chested Russian. But I did feel guilty about it.

    By Blogger Bowleserised, at 9:25 PM  

  • bowleserised - I would quite merrily feign an interest in rugby (or boules, curling, gymkhana, poking kittens in the eye with sticks, I could go on)for James Dean Bradfield should I be given the opportunity, it's vaguely on topic...

    Mr Violet feigned an interest in football for me, but it's gone a bit wrong cos he's proper into it after 4 years now. I have created a Chesterfield-supporting monster. I have discovered I'm interested in lots of new things from him, on the serious side, so I agree with those who are glad of the opportunity to learn about new things.

    By Blogger violetforthemoment, at 9:58 PM  

  • rugby? oh dear. i hope the sex was good.

    By Blogger mad muthas, at 3:11 PM  

  • David Grey?
    Oh dear I hope the sex was good!

    By Blogger Freddy, at 5:26 PM  

  • No shagpiece is worth listening to David Grey for. Ever.

    By Blogger Sassy Sundry, at 9:29 PM  

  • I don't know David Grey at all, but I saw Teddy Thompson and Linda Thompson at Carnegie Hall last night in Rufus and Martha Wainwright's holiday show. No interest needed feigning.

    By Blogger M.A.Peel, at 1:52 AM  

  • A bloke did "Babylon" on the tube the other day...it was 10 times better than David Monochrome and there was a Spontaneous round of applause.
    Teddy Thompson is brilliant. And so is Wainwright- I have all his fell walking books.

    By Blogger Murph, at 9:35 AM  

  • David Gray Bloke was responsible for providing me with my only similtaneous orgasm while having sex experience.

    Really don't see what the fuss is there. Not interesting.

    (I didn't actually pretend I liked him or anything, I jsut didn't complain when the CD went on.)

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 10:42 AM  

  • James Dean Bradfield? As in http://www.jamesdeanbradfieldofficial.com/ ? You are kidding, aren't you?

    The danger with feigning an interest is that the relationship lasts only as long as you can keep it up. Ah - but maybe that can also be a good thing . . .

    By Blogger Mangonel, at 2:22 PM  

  • Mangonel, 'fraid so.

    1) beautiful nose
    2) bulgy, manly chest
    3) fond teenage memories of him singing his heart out and strumming his Gibson Les Paul.

    By Blogger Bowleserised, at 3:54 PM  

  • I challenge anyone to listen to the Manics' cover of Stay With Me and not want to sleep with him. Terribly unfeminist of me I know.

    The chap I nearly bought a Mansun album for merrily chatted to me about how he'd bought the David Gray album in the phone call I eventually dumped him in. It really helped me make my mind up.

    By Blogger violetforthemoment, at 7:48 PM  

  • "I challenge anyone to listen to the Manics' cover of Stay With Me and not want to sleep with him. "

    *makes funny gurgly noise*

    (is that so unfeminist? The Manics are very feminist themselves, I'd say)

    By Blogger Bowleserised, at 11:39 AM  

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