Spinsterella

Tuesday, July 18, 2006

Ew

From Urban Chick:

"this is a little off-topic but, even as a smug married type, i'd like to elicit views on how weird it is for a friend to send you a dvd of the birth of their child*

me, i'm thinking: VERY weird

* in this case, by caesarean"

UC left this comment but in an old post and I thought it deserved further discussion.

Goddammit, yes it's weird. People actually do that? I though the whole videoing-the-birth was a kerrazy US thing only done by people like Demi Moore who will do and say ANYTHING for a bit of publicity.

Were these people close friends? And did they just send the DVD without warning? Is this normal? Do they think that it being Caesarian makes it OK?

The more I learn, the less I know.

18 Comments:

  • Ah, a virgin comments space!!

    I'm with old Larkers on this Spin:

    "Man hands on misery to man,
    It deepend to a coastal shelf,
    Get out as early as you can
    And don't have any kids yourself..."


    btw - How were the Pipettes live? I downloaded the single (first thing I've bought on i-shop or whatever fuck it is) I like the b-side. But then, put four birds in miniskirts and go-go boots and get Jeff Barry, Cynthia Mann and Ellie Greenwich to write some numbers for them and I'm, quide liderally, putty in your hand...

    Hope you had a good time, anyroad...

    By Blogger Robert A. Swipe, at 4:52 PM  

  • Pipettes were excellent, went down really well, everyone really got into it, and clapped along... quite a few people attempting to copy the dance routine too.

    Here are some pictures from latitude... I don't know who Sally's boy is but his pictures are a bit better than mine. We are the Pipettes, we've got no regrets!

    http://www.flickr.com/search/?q=pipettes&s=rec

    By Blogger Loganoc, at 5:02 PM  

  • see? see? about Robert Swipe? the man WANTS you.

    that last is not to my mind as bad as people who have an album of photos detailing the entire vaginal birth process and pass it around every time company comes over. 'pleased to meet you! heres some pictures of the wifes' gaping, iodine-painted hoo ha with a goopy babyhead poking out. Hors d'oervre?'

    By Blogger First Nations, at 5:07 PM  

  • I think Ceaserean would be worse than the vaginal. No cutting in the vaginal version.

    I'm glad I wasn't born by C-Section. I'd feel obliged to try and conquer Gaul at some point.

    By Blogger Billy, at 5:20 PM  

  • when small person was born the midwife was VERY weird.

    oh! the baby's head is coming out! put your hand down and feel it!

    um...no thanks.

    oh! shall i get you a mirror so you can see?!

    um...no!! thank you!!

    wrong wrong wrong. and if i don't want to watch myself giving birth, i certainly don't want to watch anyone else.

    spinny, how did you and loganoc not know it was each other until after? and what made you think it might have been at the time?

    By Blogger surly girl, at 7:03 PM  

  • It's pretty common among the hoi polloi. In fact DVDing the birth is standard. My nephew's widow had his funeral videotaped. At one point the video guy asked us to hold still while he posed us around the coffin. I suspect the nephew's widow was getting evidence for the death insurance.

    By Blogger DavetheF, at 7:05 PM  

  • "DVDing the birth is standard"

    What?

    It almost makes me happy I'm not getting any...

    Billy - "No cutting in the vaginal version." Hmmm, don't you know about episiotomy young man? V. common, especially in the US, more controversial here.

    A post about the slightly odd circumstances of how I met Loganoc coming up.

    Bob, I saw about 30 seconds of the Pipettes. They, unlike the Sch La Las, can hold a tune.

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 7:25 PM  

  • Spin, I gots me a crazy idea. If you want to hear it, drop me a line at medievalsteph@gmail.com
    xxx

    By Blogger Chaucer's Bitch, at 7:59 PM  

  • I've just looked up episiotomy and a shudder doesn't cover it. Not for the first time, I'm glad I can't get up the duff.

    Oh and the Pipettes have an excellent B-side, something about a Milkman anyway it's very cool.

    By Blogger Billy, at 8:15 PM  

  • My b-in-l is a manic videoist but even he (or maybe my sister...) drew the line at videoing the births. And if by chance they had videoed it, they would have asked me first if I wanted a copy, to which my answer would have been a resounding 'no'

    By Anonymous Gert, at 11:36 PM  

  • I would never have allowed anyone to video me giving birth (3x sections, apparently pretty gorey), but I'd have loved to have been able to watch - sadly they put up a screen, and set a midwife at the top end to distract you from what's going on on the other side of the screen. Weird feeling though with a section - they do actually do a lot of pushing and tugging, AND you can feel it happening, it just doesn't hurt. At the time.
    I would never inflict it on anyone who wasn't either being paid to be there, or wasn't involved at the start of the process. That's just eeeeughhhh.

    By Blogger Smat, at 11:54 PM  

  • I'm feeling really deprived because I don't have any video evidence of my adenoids being removed when I was 10.

    By Blogger Tim Footman, at 6:31 AM  

  • Sting's wife Trudie Styler showed a home movie of her son's birth at his 21st birthday party. Much to her son's embarrassment, needless to say.

    By Blogger MJ, at 8:24 AM  

  • I'm against people having to watch DVD's of the birth of other people's children, but all for showing 10 year old girls films of women in natural childbirth, because it would reduce the teen pregnancy rate by about 90 per cent. I can remember seeing a documentary at school in which a woman sat there with her chuff out, screaming her head off. It put me off giving birth to anything for life.

    By Blogger Betty, at 10:16 AM  

  • We didn't get to see the childbirth video, but we did get to watch the abortion video 'THe Silent Scream' which is an appalling piece of anti-abortion, anti-sex, anti-woman propaganda.

    Did you know that abortion is still illegal in Northern Ireland. Which, as you all know, is still a part of the UK, and they pay the same taxes as everybody else.

    If I had a serious blog (as opposed to this fluffy nonsense) I'd have a right rant about it.

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 11:36 AM  

  • I was allowed to watch my colonoscopy but they didn't give me a video to take home.

    Am also pondering the correlation between people who were born by Caesarian and those with megalomania problems. Exact match in my case. Maybe it's something to do with the head not getting compressed.

    By Blogger GreatSheElephant, at 12:51 PM  

  • "...see? see? about Robert Swipe? the man WANTS you."

    Sorry to burst your balloon First Nations, but I'm already tooken.

    Besides, if Spinny were to get hitched, what would we do with ourselves all day?

    It doesn't bear thinking about, does it?

    p.s. bumykgee - that's a cracker!

    By Blogger Robert A. Swipe, at 4:08 PM  

  • Are your friends now obsessed with their baby and bore you senseless about all its parps and quacks and honks? Why on earth would anyone send their friends a dvd of the birth? It's got to be the first child.

    I had a caesarian and I love my little boy but I realised really early on that I could hear this boring, droning voice crapping on about his this and his that. Then I realised that terrible drone was me and I stopped it immediately before I lost all my friends and any semblance of retaining my own sense of self. Pah! Despite that - I would have liked to have been able to see my own caesarian as I'm not squeamish and would have found it interesting.

    I can assure you Swipe is a perfect gentleman and is very taken indeed. Sod that - when are we going to find out who LC's slurker/girlfriend is??

    By Blogger rockmother, at 8:29 PM  

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