Spinsterella

Monday, April 17, 2006

And I thought I was cynical...

"I really don't know anyone who's happily married"

...thus spake Tabby a minute ago.

'I'm not quite that cynical', I thought, when I first read her comment. I do believe that there are some couples who are perfectly suited. But when I thought about it I realised that most of the couples I was thinking of have actually split up.
How many people do I know who appear to be happily married? I can only think of two examples of people I actually know in Real Life.

So, if you are very happily married, please let us know. I mean really happy, to the point where you wake up every day thanking your lucky stars that you met this one person to make your life complete.

(Some rules - you have to have been together for at least a good few years, OK?)

(PS - I'm listening to the the Entire Ring Cycle right now, that's, like, dead grown-up, isn't it?)

27 Comments:

  • Yay! I'm first!

    Okay, so I know we're not 'married' as such, but I really DO wake up every morning thanking the god's for my Superhero.

    Do we count?

    By Anonymous Piggy and Tazzy, at 8:28 PM  

  • Nope, can't think of anyone.

    By Blogger Billy, at 9:48 PM  

  • That is such a big can of worms I am not going anywhere near it - especially not in blog world. But.. but.. can't resist.

    Apparently my grandmother was happily married all her life as she married her school yard sweat heart and when he died 60 years later it was the first time she was heart broken.

    But then my Mother reckons that is bullshit because she found out from some Aunt, she was banging some RAF officer during the war when my granddad was in North Africa.

    So I guess being married doesn't make any difference apart from the social pressures it puts you under and it doesn't make anyone happier than they were anyway - it is all about circumstance.

    By Blogger hen, at 1:00 AM  

  • rock it p&t!
    me too! right here.
    going on 20, married for 7. this man is my heaven on earth and my best friend. fine roll in the hay too.
    now. wanna hear sick? really sick?
    we even wear the same scent.
    dont ask what.


    oh, all right.
    patchouli.
    *blushes purple*

    By Blogger First Nations, at 1:33 AM  

  • The comment from first nations is totally too cute - in a gagging sort of way, but still cute ;-)

    I know of just one couple, Syd and Nancy, who are happily married. Just them. Sometimes I wonder if it's because they don't have kids ;-)

    By Blogger little sister, at 3:45 AM  

  • a happy sid and nancy?
    blasphemy.

    By Anonymous riddledwiththepox, at 10:10 AM  

  • Ermm... dare I admit this in Blogworld? But I am. Honestly. I mean it's hard work sometimes and all, but still great. To the extent that if I hadn't met him I firmly believe I'd still be single.

    I'm excommunicated now, aren't I?

    By Blogger Pashmina, at 10:27 AM  

  • I'd have to say that Mr Smat and i are happily married insofar as I wouldn't want not to be married to him. Some of the actual days are a bit rough though. Together since 1989, married since 1992. Does that count as a good few years?

    By Blogger Smat, at 1:20 PM  

  • It was my second wedding anniversary yesterday. We split up nine months ago.

    I'm not sure what I'm trying to say, but it probably isn't overwhelmingly positive.

    By Blogger patroclus, at 1:46 PM  

  • my parents have been happily married for 25 years. and 25 out of 35 ain't too shabby. (ba-doom ching!)

    seriously, they're adorable. they still hug and kiss in the kitchen when they're making dinner, and they tease each other and take the mickey constantly. AND they still have great sex. (PLEASE don't ask me how i know that.)

    i hope i can be that happy with my partner when I'm almost 60. *sighs*

    By Blogger Chaucer's Bitch, at 1:48 PM  

  • Why should marriage change anything?

    It's only a couple of signatures.

    By Blogger Geoff, at 1:55 PM  

  • First Nations, urfffgh, patchouli is gross at the best of times, but a TWO smug-marrieds walking round ponging of it is just ... sick.

    Sorry.

    By Blogger Annie Rhiannon, at 4:02 PM  

  • ..oh, but it gets worse.
    matching tattoos.

    a vomit basin will be provided upon request in the interests of maintaining a fresh comment salon.

    By Blogger First Nations, at 4:12 PM  

  • I think it takes a very particular temperament -- part of it being a cheerful outlook and making the best of things ... not surprised you are one of the blissful few, Pash. I swore off the stuff after my first (and only) marriage. Not cut out for it and divorce is tough on kids.

    By Blogger DavetheF, at 8:55 PM  

  • The people I know who are happiest together and have been together for years aint married and dont see any point in getting wed.

    Me and Em had matching phones for a while. That was quite embarrassing.

    By Blogger Fuckkit, at 9:11 PM  

  • Well, to answer P&T, yes, you don't need a bit of paper to count. It's longevity I was after.

    I thought this post would inspire lots of bitter'n'twisted comments...

    But instead I'm pleasantly surprised and full of hope from all the positivity vibes.

    By Blogger Spinsterella, at 9:28 PM  

  • i lost on one marriage already so may be not the best judge, but my uncle and aunt (70 and 67) are the happiest couple i've ever known... just watching them actually makes you feel good.

    though i'm not sure i'll live that long to live that life myself.

    By Blogger treespotter, at 3:02 PM  

  • Do me and my dog count?

    By Blogger star firstbaseman, at 6:38 PM  

  • yay for P&T :-) I just knew it....I kept hearing doves cooing whenever I went to your site.

    Don't give up spinny. I had one marriage which was long and miserable but gave me a good idea of what it takes to be happy. I've been with my 2nd husband for 11 years and I'd say we're still happy. We thank our lucky stars on a regular basis.
    so, yes, it is possible. However, like Pash, I suspect its rare to meet such a mate and I too would probably still be single if I hadn't met mine when I did.

    By Blogger Kyahgirl, at 8:42 PM  

  • We are not married either. But we are getting married next year and we have been together for eight and a half years. I thank my lucky stars for her all the time where as she probably wonders what she ever did wrong to deserve me. But at least one of us is blissfully happy. Does that count?

    By Blogger afrobev, at 8:47 PM  

  • I'm happy too - 10 years (just realised I've known you longer than I've known him!). We both wondered recently why we got married as it hasn't made a jot of difference and we didn't need to proove anything to anyone, but hey, we had a nice party with lots of booze and all our mates there.

    By Blogger Miss Meep, at 8:48 AM  

  • Not sure what the conclusion is there!

    Pash and Smat - that's good. I'd like to be proved wrong.

    Fuckkit - am not sure that matching phones counts...

    By Blogger Tabby Rabbit, at 2:30 PM  

  • We went to see some Californian friends last Easter after a gap of a few years; they told us we still behaved like newly weds. We've been married 13 years. I can honestly say I wake up every day "thanking my lucky stars" that I met her. My life still would have been "complete" - but it would have been a different life, and I kind of like this one.

    By Blogger Stef the engineer, at 6:07 PM  

  • Me too! We've been married for 2 and a half years, been together for 5 and have a 5 month old baby. We've had some downs, but mainly ups and I do wake up every morning thanking my lucky stars.

    By Blogger Bex, at 10:43 AM  

  • **sticks hand up enthusiastically at back of classroom after having arrived ten minutes late for history class**

    together for a decade and then some, married for just under a decade and two chicklets to show for it (although they took considerably more effort and the involvement of some men and women in white coats - we didn't even need to have sex! brilliant!)

    By Blogger Urban Chick, at 12:26 PM  

  • Count me in on the Lucky Stars Circle. But before I met The Mister, I was cynical about marriage and couldn't imagine why anyone would bother. It wouldn't have worked for me with anyone else but him.

    By Blogger MJ, at 1:55 PM  

  • Count me in. 10 years together, married nearly 5. I was quite happy on my own thank you very much until I met him and although I gag at the word, "soulmate" it does really apply to J. Not that I wouldn't have been happy on my own, but I'm a whole lot more complete *with* him...

    By Blogger Geosomin, at 8:30 PM  

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